My girlfriend and I have recently broken up (Her Decision not mine) we are currently still living together until the end of our lease nother month or so, and she's told me the one thing I didn't want to hear today "I Don't Love You Anymore" We have been together for 3 years and have a 2 year old soon. And she says she is gonna take the legal custody however I can see him whenever I want, but I still love her and want to marry her but she doesn't want to get married, and she doesn't know if she'll ever want to get back together again. So what do I do? Do I wait until she comes to her senses? Continue to persue her and piss her off even more on a daily basis? I mean I want to be with them both, a lot of this is my fault in the past I blew them off to much for friends or computer when I shouldn't of and have tried to makes amends on this but am now at a lost....any suggestions/thoughts? I'm only 21, so I'm fairly poor and in school too.

Auron

After reading the many replies your going to get, disapear from here for 6 months and spend time with your g/f and son and build up your relationship.

If you show that you can change in the next month she might change her mind and realise what she might be missing.



Hope everything works out well :)

Take it one day at a time.

Don't put pressure on.

Take a look at the situation and be brave enough to make the right decision however much it may hurt.

Love your son and always be there for him.

As Athlete says turn your box off sometime soon taking all our thoughts and best wishes for a brighter day for you sometime soon.

That would not help anything at all :o

As the others say, take some major time off and try to do nice things for them that shows you are thinking of them :)

Best of luck to you Auron; Time resolves many things ;)

/JD

yep, forget the internet even exists and spend as much time with her as you can

Suggestions you get will be very dependent on what the person giving it has been thru. That being said I say spend as much time as you can with your son. Stay away from the computer for a while and just cruise around with the kid. Try not to let the situation mess everything else up too. Sometimes things are just out of your control. Working too hard to keep it together can cause more damage then just accepting what it is. I'm not saying to throw in the towel, just work on the friendship instead of the relationship. Will be benificial either way it goes.

Good luck to ya
HotRod

Guys thanks for those who have responded so far and to those who may still yet respond this is all good advice and I appreciate it,but I really don't think I can do anything about the relationship right now, however like Hotrod said I will work on building at our friendship first and then see where we stand once we are on good terms then. Keep your suggestions coming please

Auron

Sorry to hear of these problems. :(

It sounds like you really know what you did wrong and what needs to be changed. It's up to her if she wants to trust that you will change. Either way, spend as much time as you can with your son like others here have already said. I've been married almost 9 years and a father of 4 kids (2boy 2girls) 3 month, 2yr, 5yr and 7yr old. As for the computer I'm on and off it all the time between doing things with the family. I've had the computer in the livingroom for a longtime now so even when I'm on the computer I can still be apart of what's going on in the house. :)