Hello my BetaOne friends today mark the 2 year aniversary of the death of my father he died at 57 of cancer it for some reason is a rough day today so if I can get some friendly support on how to get through another grooling day on this date thanks my friends


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Sorry to hear that m8 - in my experience you don't ever get over it you just learn to live with it - not easy to do I am sure but try not to think of his passing but of his life and how he used it, what he gave to you and others, and celebrate that :)

That's what I try to do when I think of my grandfather, who was more like a father to me, when the anniversary of his passing comes around. I just think of all the good things he did and of course I am sad he is gone but I am sure he is looking upon me from somewhere so I try to live up to the codes of honor and integrity he instilled on me by example, and keep the place he kept close to my heart. Death is not the end of life but the start of another journey and we should honor those that have passed by celebrating their life :)

That's what they would want us to do so try not to be so sad - I doubt my grandpa or your father would want either one of us feeling too downtrodden :)

Take care Count and hang in there - you have friends to help you through tough times :)

/JD

Yes, my dad died at 64, many years ago. I never got over it and constanting think of the things he yet wanted to do, about the things whe might have talked about had he lived to a "proper age". The beauty is that when you love someone like you obviously do, he lives on in your heart. Dying is part of life and the unfortant part is that he died so young and of an often painful disease.

Remember the good things and keep him close in year heart.

It's not something you will ever forget. It might even be healthy to revisit it once in awhile to grieve Jeff, but never let yourself dwell on it for too long. Try to think happy thoughts and definitely try to keep busy with other things to ocupy your mind.

I don't really know what it's like to lose a parent, I can only imagine, I know it's easy to say, but time heals all wounds. Like everyone else has said, try to remember the good times and the love that the two of you shared.

Count, I lost my dad at the age of 12. I am 36 now and as JD says even still today I get sad when I think about my dad ,,,,,,,, but I know I will see him one day. That I am 100% sure of.

Also lost my son at age 2 days. But he is also waiting for me to be reunited one day. That is what gets me through.

Luckily we have memories of our loved ones. So hang in there my friend, and cheris the memories

As I said, I don't know what your religion is, but I don't think it is a question of good bye, but rather untill we meet again.

Thinking of you.

Cheerz
Dave

Don't worry too much!! Sure he's very proud of you.

You should have a big party tonight in his name. Get drunk as hell and go do something crazy like sky diving.

Sure he will be laughing his donkey off. :)

Hang in there. You could use the day to look back and reflect on the good times you had with your dad. Celebrate the life he lived and shared with you all. That's how I try to remember my sister who died at age 41.

Life is a gift and every day with loved ones is a blessing, so cherish each moment.

Peace,
Dan

Hello count pornula ;)

I really know what you are living these days :(

My father died in 1987 from a cancer too :angry: I was only 21 and I really loove him.

I talk to him everyday since he died and I will never forget him ;)

courage my friend ;)

i can only image how diffecult this can be

my thougs and prayers are with you today

PittPull

Hang in there Jeff, i lost my father 10 years ago this coming August. It's not something you can forget but as time passes the pain eases and this makes it easier to deal with. My familly had "rough days" before, during and after the anniversary of his death, it was so hard for the first few years.

Just remember all the good times you had with your dad and focus on them- it helped me no end and may help you.

Above all, never lose your sense of humor. The ability to smile and laugh during the greiving process is important, it helps to take the edge of the pain.

Thanks Guys For All The Kind Words It means alot to me that my BetaONE friends care enough to offer so much advice :D

Thats what iFamily and friends are for.

Let us help you, to make this day a better one :)

I am sorry about that !!

My father just get out the Hospital ... he as be operate about a cancer too !!

Hi BC

Just thought I'd add my few words of support to all the others, in your time of need. :)

My mum died when I was only 6 years old and left my Dad with 5 boys to bring up and the oldest was only 14, but he did it and worked for 12 hours a day to feed and clothe us. He did a great job to.

Dad died about 10 years ago now and although he's no longer with us, I often think of him many times a week and as soon as I do this, I see his smiling face as clear as day in my mind, just as if he was still with me, and I remember all of the good times we had as a family. So you see BC, even though your Dad has gone, he can still be there for you, even if it's only in spirit.

When you need comfort and understanding, just think of your Dad and he'll always be there for you, day or night, no matter where you are.

Regards

Brave01Heart

I'm sure he would be so happy to know you are still thinking so much about him.

Hope you made it through the day ok.

Take care. B)

God Bless m8.

He is still there for you friend, know this, one day you will be reunited again... thats a fact m8.

Al

Hello count pornula

I to lost my Dad, he was only 51....I will never get over it, he worked so hard to raise 4 kids, and try to have a life...

He was honest, hard working, and a desent Man, but still cancer got him, just when he could start enjoying life after kids....

I think of him Everyday, and Smile, thinking of the Wonderful times we had together when I was young, fishing, hunting, camping, building houses, and I even helped him build a 2 seater helicopter called a scorpian, and took the first flight with him...He had a pretty full life, was Always building or fixing something or helping a neighbor or friend out, but he still got called Home to soon....

I just have to get busy when I get to down about it and just try and focus on the good times...

I lost my daughter just after her 21 birthday from a drug overdose, and this has crippled me for the past 10 years...She had so much to live for, a daughter that the state took away, and I cannot see or even know where she is, and so many friends that miss her dearly, it just has stunded me so bad I have not had a steady job in the past 10 years, and have had serious depression and drug problems since this happened...I just go day to day trying to give the pain to God, and make it through another day...

It does get a little better with time, but I will always have a giant hole where my baby girl is missing from, but again, I try and focus on the wonderful times I had when she was a baby and I could hold and take care of her, and all the walks and talks I was luckey enough to have with her before the problems began...

Hang in there Friend, the pain will get to be less with time, and just keep a Happy thought for him, and try to smile inside when you think of him....
And if it starts to get to hard to take the pain, try and give some of it to God, he will help you through....

I am sorry for your loss, Thanks for Sharing, I thought of my dad and my daughter just now, and Smiled....

BigHead50

Grieving is good, remembering your past is good, living in the present = difficult but nessessary.

/me sends BIG iHUGS

Thanks for the share BigHead50.

Your reply made me sit back and take a moment to count my blessings and pass a little prayer your way. :)

Sorry for your loss. Makes me think though as I will be the same age in september. Im lucky to have both my parents still with me and have made some major ammends with them for past actions.When they go I know it will be with me for the rest of my life but its survivable. Think good memories my friend. Those will always be with you.

I have read all the post here and will send a prayer to each and everyone of you. Memories are a good thing, if it were not for memories just think how this world really would be........ Each one of us have the choice to remember the good or bad times in our lives. I choose to remember the good times and try to not remember the bad times. I also know that it is not easy, not easy at all. It seems as though most of if not all that have responded have had great love for their parents and that is good and the best way. A positive attitude most assuredly will help you get by. God Bless All

Thanks
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